Why The Law of Attraction Doesn’t Work For Most People

So if “The Secret” and the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for most people, what does? Here’s what YOU can do to manifest anything your heart truly desires.

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve either seen or heard of “The Secret”, a 2006 film produced by Prime Time Productions. The crux of the film and most traditional ‘Law of attraction’ teachings is that everything you want may be attainted by seeing, feeling & believing that you will receive that outcome, by consistently thinking about it, and maintaining positive emotional states to “attract” it.

These teachings are now so common in our community we even take it for granted. The teaching says, in essence, if you want a car, for example, you need just to imagine, feel and believe you have the car regularly – and stay happy overall – and the car will soon show up in your life for you to drive.  Or in simple terms – Ask — believe — receive. This sounds good in theory, but let’s see what is really going on with this traditional teaching of the Law of Attraction, find out what is missing and discover how you can truly create the life and experiences your heart desires – even if you’ve not had success in the past.

So, to begin let’s get real and be totally honest. Nearly everyone has had some occasional experiences of success with this traditional ‘Law of Attraction’ method  – Ask — believe — receive. However, more importantly, we need to ask ourselves, has this method consistently worked for you in a way that is reliable, guaranteed and free of hidden problems? And, have you seen it successfully work for others who have tried it? In short, is this the real deal, or are there other factors at play that are possibly even more powerful than the ‘traditional’ Law of Attraction methods?

This article shares the difference between the limited traditional methods and the deeper, more secret aspects of conscious creation that are rarely spoken of or understood.

Most people are NOT manifesting what they want.

If your life is not exactly as you’d love it to be and you’ve been struggling to make the ‘law of attraction’ work for you in creating a better life, I want you to know that you are not alone. Look around you at all the misery in peoples’ lives who know about these tools.

In fact, having spoken to hundreds of people personally about why the law of attraction is not working for them, and having taught thousands of people through my courses, I can assure you that very few people understand the deeper workings to these teachings and even worse, most people have experienced negative side effects from attempting to make the law of attraction work for them.

Be warned, the traditional law of attraction teachings can actually screw up your life and land you with nightmares from shattered and distorted dreams. It’s like the movie ‘The Fly’ where a man is teleported in a machine with a stray fly and when he is re-materialized he has become half man, half fly. If you get these techniques wrong they are worse than having done nothing.

So, what really happens when people apply the traditional Law of attraction methods?

The theory sounds great Ask — Believe — Receive. Unfortunately, for many people who have tried this method, in real life they’ve either:

1.    Had inconsistent success (and not been able to rely on the method or know what they did that made it work or not work)

2.    Not manifested the things they wanted (and often ended up feeling dis-empowered, disappointed and depressed or in debt from what was meant to be an empowering process)

3.    Manifested the things they wanted only to realize they didn’t really want them and then ended up facing a whole array of unforeseen problems that have actually made their life considerably worse than before!

4.    Not been able to apply the methods because their mind was all over the place and they have not been able to stay in a positive state

In this article you will discover 2 of the 4 missing secrets in ‘The Secret’ and what you can do to really manifest your heart’s desires, consistently and with maturity and a deep understanding that works.

My aim is to supply you with the beginnings of all you will ever need to attain your heart’s true desires and for you to never again wonder what you are doing wrong and “why isn’t this working.” Once you uncover these eternal truths and master yourself, you can sit on the seat of a master creator and command the power of the universe to yield to you whatever is pure and true to your heart. I have personally used these methods to manifest a profoundly beautiful, loving, abundant life here in Los Angeles from where I write this. Not only have I created physical wealth and its expressions, but more importantly: spiritual wealth, loving relationships, health, energy, joy and the ability to make a significant contribution to the world. I owe my success in life to the application of the 4 secrets to using the Law of Attraction as taught to me. In this article I will reveal the first 2 of them.

To begin, I want to acknowledge that the traditional LOA teachings are not wrong, they are just incomplete – and when used with the understanding of all 4 secrets, you will be able to create whatever you truly desire in life. The traditional methods are good to be seen as about 10-20% of the conscious creation puzzle. This article will give you 65 – 75% you were not told about so you can apply it in your life.

Some of these secrets are open secrets, available for all who are willing to see. I call them ‘secrets’ because those who teach the law of attraction rarely disclose them and you deserve to know what they are. So, if you’re tired of not experiencing the life you want, let’s get to it and start filling in the gaps.

Missing Secret 1: Not all desires are the same…

This first secret was alluded to in the title of the article. In the traditional LOA teachings, it is mentioned that whatever you want you can have if you focus on having it enough, feel good about having it and generally stay in positive emotions. Unfortunately, the alarming problem with this teaching is the word ‘want’. Why? Because not everything we ‘want’ is truly what we really, deeply and honestly desire on a soul level. In fact most of the things we think we want will never bring us any real happiness and fulfilment at all – and worse still, even if we do manifest our lower desires they will materialize along with a disturbing progeny of unexpected complications, suffering, frustrations and even depression and bankruptcy in some cases.

There is an enormous difference between your ego / head based limited desires – and you heart’s pure, true desires (coming from your soul and divinely ordained). The energy between these two kinds of wants or desires couldn’t be further apart – and most LOA teachings do not make any distinction between these two types of desires, blindly leading people to create lives that they end up hating and would be happier without.  Not all desires are made equal! Be careful what you ask for!

What happens when you try to manifest your head/ego desires?

Firstly, if you try to manifest the limited desires of your head, you will probably easily give up on your desire as soon as you encounter a problem or obstacle because these weak, superficial desires lack power and true motivation to withstand the challenges of life. This is a big reason so many people fail and end up feeling dis-empowered because in their heart of hearts they didn’t want these ego desires deeply enough to pursue them in all situations. Sadly, after abandoning the new car, new house or whatever their superficial desire, most people just go away feeling weaker than before and never take the time get clear on what they truly desire, remaining stuck and feeling even more lost than before they tried.

The second common outcome if the ego is driving the bus of your life, and you are manifesting from your head, is that on arrival of your destination, you will find yourself fraught with endless problems and dramas. Relationship issues, health problems, depression, addiction, financial problems, you name it. It is ironic that many of those involved in the movie ‘The Secret’ have ended up in nasty legal squabbling – rather than being in joy, bliss and abundance that the film claims to be about.


It is essential that you only consciously ask and focus your attention on things that are your heart’s pure desires or you will either end up disempowered or fraught with unexpected problems (or both). Until you are clear, just keep staying happy, and try and keep asking for guidance on what is the highest good for all.

What happens when you manifest your hearts pure, true desires?

You are an eternal being of love, peace, purity, power and bliss. You already HAVE everything right now and the purpose of spiritual evolution is simply to remove the blocks to that which you already are and serve others from your heart.

As you open yourself to the truth about your eternal nature and meaning of life and take time to be in silence, contemplation and meditation you will definitely connect with your heart’s true desires.

Here are some questions you can use to discover your heart’s true desires:

Imagine you are in your highest state, what would be the highest physical manifestation of your inner nature?

‘What is the highest good for all?’

‘At the end of your life, what would you love to be known for?’

‘What life situations would bring you joy again and again and again?’

‘What is the greatest level of heart felt service you could do?’

‘If you had never watched TV, or been exposed to any advertising and social brainwashing, what would you truly desire?’

Write down whatever comes and keep asking these questions until your HEART feels fully engaged, warm and excited. When you smile from your soul and your heart is ablaze, you know you’ve discovered your heart’s true desires. Note: your heart’s true desires will always be related to sharing your gifts, serving others and making a difference. Money, abundance and love come as a consequence of you living your heart’s true desires. You can’t chase money and love. It is an automatic consequence of you connecting with your deeper, heart felt desires and serving others.

Until you get to this level of inspiration, keep asking and don’t bother trying to manifest things that are from your ego. It is a waste of time and energy. Just focus on the other secrets you are learning here.

Missing Secret 2: What is Your Level Of Consciousness?

It’s myth-busting time! A huge myth in the new age movement is that everyone has a similar capacity to manifest things if they simply apply the traditional methods. If you look around, you can clearly see this is not true. Some people manifest seemingly effortlessly and others, despite all their hard work, never seem to manifest or change anything.

The reason behind this discrepancy is each ones level of consciousness. According to Dr. David Hawkins, one of my favourite contemporary spiritual teachers and an inspiration to many, each of us is born with a calibratable level of consciousness. He has created a log-rhythmic map of consciousness from 0 to 1000. The higher your level of consciousness = the more power you have. What this means for you, is that the more power you have the easier it is to attract and manifest things. This is the real secret to manifestation and is not a technique but an existing state of being.

For example, someone whose level of consciousness is 50 (the level of apathy) simply does not have the power to feel good, to think positively and to attract new things. They simply are not able to apply the LOA even if they wanted to no matter how easy it may sound to someone else. Just as most people cannot easily lift 105KG weights like professional weight lifters, also not everyone has the power to understand and manifest their hearts true desires.

On the other side of the scale, someone with a level of consciousness 575 (Level of ecstasy and siddhis) is living in a completely different world with entirely different possibilities. On this level, Hawkins teaches, it is as if there is a constant and endless flow of profound manifestations far greater and more amazing than anything mentioned in the secret and other LOA teachings. On this level of consciousness, one has reached a state where they have attained the Siddhis, which are mentioned in many ancient Indian teachings as a state before Enlightenment (“power, prowess, strength, ability”, a special kind of psychic and supernatural, miraculous, occult power.) and at this level of consciousness life is nothing short of a series of constant miracles & synchronicities that happen spontaneously and automatically.

Coming back to a classic quote from one of the main proponents of the LOA teachings, here is a version from Abraham Hicks “That which is like unto itself is drawn.” This quote makes a lot of sense in the context of the levels of consciousness. Another way we could redefine that Law of Attraction is whatever state we have BECOME is what we will attract.

What this effectively means is that it is NOT the method that can be applied to manifest that is going to work, rather what is attracted to us is based on what we have actually become (due to our level of consciousness) and not based on a method.

To know that the Law of Attraction methods simply don’t work for everyone may come as a bit of a shock to some people – because we’ve been taught to believe that these methods will work for us all. The sobering truth is the real secret to the law of attraction is the level of consciousness of the person doing it. The higher your level of consciousness the more power you have to manifest your heart’s desires.

How can you ascend in your level of consciousness?

There are 3 main things that will support you in increasing your level of consciousness (I share more about this on my website)

1.    Be humble.
Realize that your ego is limited and doesn’t know everything and is never always right. Once you accept you are a student of life and being loving and kind is more important then being right and holding onto beliefs – you open yourself to higher energies that can then raise your level of consciousness.

2.    Surrender to God/The Divine

It’s important not to get caught up in words here as we talk about God. There is an energy that is infinitely powerful and pure, that has the power to burn through the clouds that shield us from our true power and liberate us from all our suffering, confusion and anxiety. This being is here to remove the clouds in our life. As you are humble and choose to let go and surrender the limited ego side of you to The Divine, to release old ideas, old resentments, negative habits and being right, you begin to open up to enormous power that purifies your soul and raises your level of consciousness. Simply be humble and be aligned with this energy and watch as your life naturally improves.

3.    Be loving to all life.

The ego self is selfish and greedy. As your consciousness ascends and you come into your power, your life becomes alighted with service and loving others. Transcending the egos wants and fulfilling your heart’s true desires will bring you not only joy in the moment by serving, but as you serve others from your heart – all your own human needs and desires for love, wealth and health will be fulfilled (even if you don’t use traditional LOA methods and focus on them specifically)

One of the biggest complaints against the traditional LOA teaching is that you can simply sit on a chair all day, imagine you have a million dollars and the million dollars will show up in the mail. I think we all can tell how naive this approach is. It may be great for selling books, but useless in practice. So here are some hints…

Call to evolution

1. Ask the questions in this article to discover your heart’s true desires that you want to manifest

2. Focus most of your energy on ascending in your level of consciousness.

3. Apply the traditional LOA method of experiencing yourself in the NOW having attained your heart’s true desires. See it and feel it. Touch, taste and fully immerse yourself in the desired outcome. It is a done deal and you have already attained this for a long time and it is normal. Get to this level of familiarity with your visions.

4. Let go of all attachment to your desires, goals and visions. Surrender to The Divine. Be aligned with whatever is the highest good for all and be free.

5. Whenever you get ideas related to your heart’s true desires – act! Don’t just sit around waiting. It you have ideas, make them happen!

6. Repeat the process with higher levels of humility and surrender to The Divine.

Work Less. Worry Less. Achieve More. Be more


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